Why choose a Private Midwife?
So you still might find yourself wondering why you would choose to have your own midwife...why you would pay someone to be there for you through your pregnancy, birth and the weeks that follow with a new babe in arms and in heart....well let me shed some light.
There are many ways of looking at this....but for this moment I am going to look at it from the perspective of training for a big event.
Imagine preparing for the olympics. Imagine learning chemistry for year 12. Imagine writing a PhD. Imagine being born and learning this thing called life....all of these things we have one person..maybe two or three...but rarely more....guiding us on our journey.
This main person is someone who knows us, who we trust, who we can be honest with, who we can cry with, who can grow us, who we can laugh with, who we can disagree with and who is an expert in this thing we are wanting to get to the other side of to the best of our ability....and when the day comes that we have to go it alone we know they are still right there beside us, they are watching us, and they are
holding the space for us as we go....and on that other side that they are there to celebrate the joy of what we have accomplished and will be there to help us find our way through if things don't go to plan.
They are up close to us but not so close that they are emotionally rocked by our emotions. They are far enough away to give us space to be who we need to be but not far enough away for us to feel alone. Now I know people don't prepare for the Olympics every day and not that many do a PhD but many learn chemistry in year 12 and all of us are born and need to find our way through life. We have one teacher for chemistry, we have one or two PhD supervisors, we have one main over all coach for training for the olympics and we have one mother and one father. We need to feel safe to grow. And we need to feel safe to let go.
While we have many teachers along the way in what ever we do in life we do best if we have a main one who feels safe to us, who we feel held by and who we can be vulnerable with. We do best when each time we say good bye to them they know where we left off when we meet again....and they can keep us going on the same path rather than down many different paths where we can end up not knowing where we are any more and give in to the person directing us or feel we have to fight to keep to the path we began on.
Giving birth is no different. In fact I would say it is even more important....this journey is one you will do only once maybe twice or thrice in your life. And is one you will never forget. Be wise in your choices....and know you have choice.
